Do you tell your better half things that you probably should keep secret?
I've had this girlfriend since I was 9 years old.
We were basically inseparable until we hit our late teens and we started dating guys and hanging out with people that weren't from the same crowds.
Since then, we have drifted in and out of each other's life, sometimes going a year or so without seeing or talking to each other.
Inevitably, we catch up once again and it becomes as if there was never a lapse of time between us.
I think in a lot of ways we are soul sisters.
Ironically, we are polar opposites.
I am extroverted and wordy.
She is introverted and quiet.
I am really short.
She is really tall.
I am married.
She is single.
One thing we have in common is that we each have 2 kids.
Since I married my brother's best friend, I spend most of my time hanging out with family.
She spends most of her time hanging out with old friends of ours that I haven't seen in 20 years or so.
My husband doesn't know her all that well, yet sometimes when we are lying in bed at night I find myself telling him about her dating adventures.
Which, if I'm to be honest occasionally means indulging him about who she's sleeping with.
Or I place my bets that she WILL sleep with someone she's going on a date with.
Not that he knows any of these people.
He gets kind of quiet and doesn't say much and just seems rather uncomfortable.
It finally dawned on me that having a single friend out in the world of one night stands and non committed dating must feel like a bit of a threat.
I'm surprised it didn't dawn on me earlier, but since I don't hit the bars or go out with her in that capacity, the thought never crossed my mind.
After reflecting on this, I guess I would feel a bit uncomfortable if hubby had a single friend who was hooking up with women they used to know.
So what do you think?
Is pillow talk like this just a part of married life, or should we keep some things like this secret from our better half?
And next time my friend texts me to say she spent the night at so and so's house, should I keep it to myself or throw my arms up in the air like I always do shouting, "Ha Ha! I knew it!"
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