Some things are better left in bits and pieces. Like this outfit for instance. I take a lot of Instagram's of my "OOTD" but never post them on the blog. Sometimes they are a precursor to an upcoming blog post, sometimes not. I wasn't loving the actual outfit photos I took today, and ironically, sometimes the photos; whether good or bad help me edit my outfit. After reviewing the ones I took today, I knew I needed to uncuff my jeans one more time and untuck my white button up. While I felt comfortable, my jeans are way too low rise for a tucked in shirt which was evident in the photos.
Since I hated the shots I took today, I decided to share with you guys the "bits and pieces" instead. Interestingly enough, I read something this morning that really got my wheel's spinning on whether it's better to share "bits and pieces" or to "lay it all out there" when it comes to social media and blogging.
It started when I logged onto Facebook this morning and read a post from a "friend" I haven't seen in over 15 years bashing the father of her two oldest children. She was requesting that anyone who is "friends" with both of them on FB "unfriend" her immediately since she cannot possibly consider someone her "friend" if they can be his "friend" too due to some private dastardly deeds. Which were all aired out in the post, I might add. None of these issues are the business of anyone on Facebook and I was shocked that someone would demand for people to take sides. I am indeed "friends" with both of them on that site and while I silently hoped her allegations against him weren't true, I was more inclined to "unfriend" her because I was so offended by her post. Their private matters as a separated couple with children are no one's business but their own.
My mind immediately started reeling to thoughts of some of the blogs I read regularly and how a handful of these bloggers have just announced they are getting divorced. Some gave only "bits and pieces" while others aired all the news fit to print. I find myself most empathetic towards the blogs where I only read the "bits" and found myself feeling ambivalent towards the ones who "aired it all". Maybe it's her fault...maybe it's his...hmmmm. Since I don't know these people in real life, I had to snap myself back to reality after reading, acknowledging that no one can develop an opinion hearing one side, silently wishing them peace in their situations and then moving on because none of it is truly my business anyway.
Sometimes I feel like I "overshare", but in reality I'm not sure that I do. I could never imagine telling anyone other than my nearest and dearest exactly what company I am going to be working for and what exactly my job title and description is. I could entertain you all with stories about people who have worked for me, but I never would. I have been so mad at times that I have thought about writing a post that vents all my frustrations but tomorrow morning when I have cooled down, my anger will still be floating in cyberspace for all the world to see. Sometimes before I hit the "send" button I will actually ask myself "What will my kids think if they read this?"
I don't live my life concerned about what other people think. I used to have pink dreadlocks and a nose ring for Pete's sake! And while I will be the first one to applaud people who aren't afraid to voice an opinion, I personally believe that there are some things better kept secret. And goodness knows I have my share of them!
That all being said, the blogs I love best are those of you who I have gotten to "know". I may not be able to recite your husband's or your children's name (because you never told us), and I may not know what your day to day life really is like, but I have received enough of the "bits and pieces" to keep me coming back for more.
How do you feel about sharing on blogs? Are "bits and pieces" better, or do appreciate the whole "scoop"?
p.s. I really wanted this post to be called "Plaid With A Side Of Penny Loafer" but when I was done it only made sense to change it! ;)